The first thing that stood out in my mind when learning about this theory was that two different stages could go on at once. My grandma and my mom always talked about how when I was born and how when most people thought I had come at the wrong time, I had really been a blessing and their angel. Here is the story...
(Mom, my Grandpa, my Grandpa, Uncle)
My grandpa had had a stroke paralyzing his left arm and most of his movement in his left leg, along with many other healthy issues. My grandma and mom took care of him the whole way through his illness... they were three peas in a pod. My mom and dad were unable to have their own children and were going through the adoption process all throughout my grandpas darker days. My grandpa passed away June 19, 1991... I was born June 22, 1991. My grandma and my mom had to deal with the loss of a spouse and parent while also welcoming a new born granddaughter and daughter. We then became the new three peas in a pod.
Typically these two stages are not linked together at the same time as they are so far apart on the life course, however my grandma and mom experienced it together. My grandma had to transition from having her husband there all of the time, to not, as well as being there for her daughter. My mom had to transition from having both parents to only one as well as having a new baby to add to the family. Families go through constant times of transition, that can be very stressful, but the times always seem to even out, back into a sense of stability.
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